Happy Father’s Day to all you fathers! I wish a day filled with joy, peace, all the good things you want.
As your loving family is gratefully celebrating your presence in their lives, consider taking some time to prepare for your next year as a father.
Know that you are the model for how an adult male is to act, to speak, to think. Make sure you are being the model you want to be. It effects your sons. They try out your behavior for themselves. It effects your daughter. She looks for a man like her father.
7 ways the Power of Respect can help you:
- You have more energy – the energy you used as the enforcer is now freed up for you
- Your kids become self-enforcers and you are free to enjoy them
- Your influence over your kids becomes huge
- You ensure that your kids grow up being respectful adults
- You help create an atmosphere of peace and harmony in your home
- You ensure good self-esteem in your kids
- Your kids become great democratic citizens
The Power of Respect can help you have more energy – the energy you used as the enforcer is now freed up for you:
Imagine not having to be the one to enforce the rules, to give out the punishments… That takes a lot of energy. Think of the energy it takes when you are mad at your kids. Mad generates a lot of energy. Now this energy can be for you to use in ways that please you.
You will gain more energy having a good time with your kids than punishing them. That’s a downer for everyone.
It takes a lot of energy making sure that they aren’t breaking the rules and making sure they follow the rules.
What if I showed you that you don’t have to use your energy that way? In fact, it’s counter-productive behavior for any parent. You want your kids to learn, right? Well, this doesn’t teach.
(check out: http://www.parentchildteacher.com and http://www.besthelpfortroubledteens.com for more information & more is coming here in future blogs)
The Power of Respect can help your kids become self-enforcers and you are free to enjoy them:
When you use the Power of Respect, you all agree on the rules. Your kids, having been part of making up the rules and having agreed on them, now are eager to be self-enforcers. You are off the hook and can just enjoy your time with them.
The Power of Respect can help your influence over your kids become huge!:
When you are no longer a threat to your kids, they know that no decisions about them are made without their agreement, they come to you whenever they need help, when they want to share, when they just want to enjoy being with you.
They have always loved you, but now they are not guarded and protective of themselves, they are open to what you have to say. They want your opinion. They are grateful for your suggestions and, if it makes sense to them, they follow your advice.
Your ability to influence your kids has just grown HUGE!
The Power of Respect can help you ensure that your kids grow up being respectful adults:
When a child is raised with respect as their parents’ bottom line, no matter what, the parent is never less than respectful, that child grows up filled with respect. That child gives respect out to everyone, peers, younger people and all adults. Most of the time that is what they will get back and it just keeps on growing.
The Power of Respect can help you create an atmosphere of peace and harmony in your home:
Imagine…everyone in your family knows how to treat every other member respectfully…and they do…they want to. How does that look? How does that feel?
You can do this with the help of the Power of Respect.
The Power of Respect can help you ensure good self-esteem in your kids:
When your kids’ thoughts and opinions are considered to be as important as anyone else’s in the family, when something they don’t like is scratched off the list of possible options, they feel pretty good about themselves. As this continues they feel better and better, and their self-esteem goes higher and higher.
This is not just false pride, it based on re-gaining their personal power and believing in their importance in this world. Through the Power of Respect and your example, you are giving them the tools to use their personal power for the benefit of all, including themselves.
These beliefs in their importance, their value will serve them well in life, as will the harmonizing skills they learn through the practice of the Power of Respect.
The Power of Respect can help your kids become great democratic citizens:
By actively participating in the decision-making process of the family, kids learn to think for themselves. They learn to make wise decisions by practicing making decisions, seeing the results, tweaking and re-deciding.
By accepting that each person in the family deserves to have, do and be what they want….as long as it is not at the expense of anyone else….and because they have the tools to make this happen, they extend this into the greater community, our democracy.
Because of your use of the Power of Respect, your kids have good self-esteem, self-respect, a strong sense of self-worth. “When people with self-respect contribute, they tend to do their best; the excellence of their efforts adds to the richness of the nation.”
(from the ebook Parenting with the Power of Respect – available at: http://www.parentchildteacher.com )
So, this Father’s Day, if respect is already your bottom line, celebrate that - knowing what good your are doing for your kids and our world, if not find out how to make the Power of Respect your bottom line.
kvryce